realest real steps to how i went from self-loathing loser to self-confidence gem:
stop. just stop those negative thoughts in their tracks right now. go listen to some beyonce or something for a couple of minutes.
every time you’re starting to feel self-loathing and you’re starting to have those negative thoughts creep in, start complimenting yourself. ridiculous, endless, gushing compliments about yourself
fake it. fake your self confidence. put on a mask of being full of yourself and never take it off. it’s a good mask to wear.
look back at your life and think about all the times that you could have died. tripped and fallen over a railing, semi truck could have kept changing lanes and slammed into the car you were in, fall off a roof onto your head. and the fact you didn’t die any of those times. not a single goddamn one. the world’s had six billion years to sharpen its skill and it can’t kill you. fucking terra firma can’t touch you.
own your weirdness. just fucking own that shit. it’s part of who you are and that’s rad.
laugh at your failures and say shit like “oh damn i fucked up, oh well. no big.” own them and then move on and keep getting better. at everything.
never apologize for loving something.
if someone insults you treat them like the insect they are. you are superior to them and make sure to remind them of that. they’re jealous of you, point it out.
laugh at your own jokes. you’re hilarious.
dance if you feel like it.
anytime someone says something like “well aren’t you cool” respond with something like “yeah i am.” take that shit as a legitimate compliment.
take a million goddamn selfies and and post as many as you feel like it because goddamn you look fine.
compliment yourself when the opportunity arises in conversations.
if someone tells you that you’re full of yourself, respond with “yes i am” and never apologize for it.
own shit that you can’t do and make them funny and endearing. nobody can make you feel inferior unless you let them. so don’t ever let them.
take off your mask of self confidence that you put on for step 3. surprise, your real face is the exact same underneath. you’ve been confident as hell and loving yourself for awhile without faking it. you badass.